Tuesday, April 28, 2009

28 Weeks - 2nd Milestone

I've officially made it to 28 weeks today! I have hit my 2nd major milestone in a twin pregnancy. Let me explain: There are 3 major milestones to hit in a twin pregnancy, as my doctor says. The first is the 24 week mark. Babies born this early will likely spend at least three months in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), and a third of them will survive with no long-term problems. The 2nd milestone is 28 weeks, when viability skyrockets. Ninety percent of babies who make it to this stage of gestation survive. Long-term complications are still a possibility, however. The last major milestone that doctors like to see mothers of multiples hit is the 34 week mark. Babies born now generally have an excellent chance of survival, without any major long-term complications, though they might not have full lung maturity (which generally occurs between 33 and 37 weeks) and will need to spend time in the NICU.

This morning I had my 28 week appointment. I had my sonogram first and all was going well until the very end when the sizes of the twins were compared against each other. Baby A, our boy, is measuring smaller than average while Baby A, our girl, is measuring a little bigger than average. One is in the 57th percentile and one is in the 32nd precentile. These are things to necessarily worry about until they compare one twin to another. Doctors want to make sure that they difference between the two isn't too large - in other words, one twin would be taking more nutrients than the other one. The sono tech gave us all the numbers and then said "I need to go run this by some others.. I'll be right back." He eventually came back and said that they needed to run more tests - do a doppler test. I was crying at this point. All I could think about was bedrest and the fact that one of my babies was too small. We were then sent off to see the Dr.

Dr. S. said he wasn't that worried about the size difference in the twins but that he wanted to keep an eye one me. I'm going back in a little over a week to have a perinatologist do a sono for me and evaluate what he sees. So, we'll see. This appointment is the week after we move in.

Other news from the appt - Dr. S. told me this morning that he's excited that we hit 28 weeks and now we're shooting for 34 weeks. Once I hit 34 weeks, anything can happen... WOW! to think that 34 weeks is only SIX weeks away!!! Am I ready? I guess I better be!!! Both babies are now head down. Girly-girl has now decided to join her brother in the head down position which is super exciting. I had a feeling one had switched places because things just felt different. Now, if they stay this way, I'm on track for trying to have them naturally! Fun! My blood pressure and urine culture looked good (i know, too much information) and my weight is even good. I have gained less so far than I did with Mady so we'll see how these last few weeks shape up. As for growth, I'm also doing well. At my current point, 28 weeks, I'm measuring 32 weeks for someone with one baby... if that makes sense. So, I'm technically only measuring 4 weeks ahead of schedule. I'm sure that will change though towards the end of the pregnancy as the babies are getting bigger. Dr. S. said I was doing well. He told me again to make sure that I rest lots - laying on my left side - especially on the weekends. I've been making sure that I do get lots of rest during the day. He said everything else looks good! Yay!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Mommy, Daddy, Dinosaurs and Wonder Pets!

Last night we went out to dinner with our good friends, Paul and Nicole. When we got back to their house, Madalyn was still awake - the sitters hadn't put her to bed yet. So, being completely stuffed from eating too much I plopped down on the couch and laid there for a good 20 minutes instead of immediately putting Mady in bed. She decided it would be fun to act like she was tucking me in bed. She would cover my feet and legs with her blanket, give me her favorite bunny named Ma, hold the sides of my face with her sweet hands and gently kiss my forehead, and then tell me "Goodnight, Mom." I would pretend like I was sleeping and then I would wake up and we would start all over again. We did this numerous times before she said "Mommy, we need to pray." I told her that she could pray for Mommy since she was putting me down to sleep. She said "Thank you Jesus for this food." (a lot of times she prays for us when we eat). I had to give her a quick lesson that she can pray about anything she wants and then she said she wanted to pray for Mommy and Daddy. Here's what came out of her mouth next... "Thank You Jesus for Mommy, Daddy, Dinosaurs, and Wonder Pets. Amen." It was so adorable. She had been playing with Dinosaurs at Paul and Nicole's house while we went out so I'm sure that's why she prayed for them. I have no idea why she prayed for the Wonder Pets. Wonder Pets is a tv show and since I rarely allow her to watch tv I have no idea why she prayed for them. The only place I think she has seen Wonder Pets may have been at the gym. Who knows why she prayed for them... but it was so sweet! (I also loved getting all of those sweet kisses on my forehead!)

Saturday, April 11, 2009

House Update!

Most of you know by now that we've sold our house and purchased another one! Mark keeps mentioning that I need to update our blog with the process so here goes... A short version...

Sunday, March 22: When we had our house For Sale by Owner, one particular guy was interested but never did follow through. He emailed Mark out of the blue tonight and wanted to see the house. Mark passed along his number and the guy called within the hour. He came over at 7:30pm to look at our house and loved it. He said he would definitely be in touch. Meanwhile, Mark called our realtor (whom we just listed with a week ago Friday) and told him about the situation. He mentioned that another realtor had called him today and that her client came by our house this past Friday and was interested in the house and she said that an offer might be coming soon.

The next three days were a bidding war essentially. The guy that had looked Sunday evening came back twice and the realtor's client made an initial low offer. We countered that offer and told the fsbo guy that we had another offer on the table. He then made an initial offer and we went back to the realtor. Her client found out there was another offer and upped her offer to above listing price. The guy made a second offer but it wasn't near hers at all so we accepted the offer from the realtor and her client on Thursday the 26th. We were ecstatic! 19 days on the market and we sold for more than listing price!! Woohoo! It doesn't get any better than that.

We found out that she wanted to close on May 8 (she's moving from out of state and needs that date specifically) so on Friday the 27th, we immediately began searching for houses. We basically had a little over a month before we had to be out of our house so we were in a bit of a crunch. Most of the houses we were looking at had possession dates of 30 days so we basically had about a week to find something so that we could move from one house to the other. Talk about stress! We had been browsing online for months already so we had a couple of ideas on some houses that we liked. We had even gone to some open houses and we were able to weed out some that we thought were potential keepers, but weren't. We were out for about 4 hours on Friday and found one house that we sort of liked. The house that we really liked was unable to be seen so we had to wait until Sunday. Mark's note: As we were driving along, Eric, our realtor from Remax asked me if I was interested in a foreclosure. I said absolutely. We went by to see it. It was phenomenally large! It was well north of 3200 sq ft, 4 BR, 3 bath, colossal kitchen, the works. The neighborhood is one of the nicest neighborhoods in Champaign. The only issue was when they foreclosed on the owners, they turned the power off and it rained, and the sump pump obviously didn't keep water out of the huge finished basement. They hired a company to come in and clean it all out (cut the drywall out about 2 feet above the floor all the way around). But it rained again, and the water came back, so when we looked at it, it had about 3 inches of standing water. We seriously thought about this home (it needed a LOT of work and we were very concerned about mold and water coming back in the future, it seemed like a lot of water for not a lot of rain) but the price was right. It was $110,000 below what the owners purchased it for 2 years ago. 4 buyers looked at it that day right after us and it was sold that night. Addendum: about a week later I was talking with our friends who used to live next to this home, and he told me that there had been water issues there for years. Things happen for a reason...

Sunday the 29th : We went out looking again and we were able to see the house that we had liked online. We fell in love with it and put an offer in later that night. They came back with another number that night and we put out another number also. The next day, Monday the 30th, we couldn't settle on a price and were going back and forth between $5,000. It was not an issue of whether we could go up because we could, but Mark just didn't feel peace about it. He felt like the Lord was telling him not to go any higher. So, we didn't and we didn't get that house. Mark's note: The nice thing about that house was that it had a finished basement. It really didn't need any work, but the back yard was a little smaller than we were wanting. As Jennifer and I really prayed about this house, I believe the Lord was testing our faith. The Lord gave me a number for this house, and he told me to stick to it, for whatever reason. We walked away, and it was one of the hardest things I've done. To be honest, we thought when we walked away, the owners would realize what was going on, and they would lower the price. We were wrong. Ironically enough, we looked on line a week later, and they had lowered the price on the home $5,000. Things happen for a reason...

After being extremely bummed we went out again on Tuesday. Our realtor had some new houses to show us and we liked 2 of them, the second once especially. It was in the Sawgrass Subdivision - a newer subdivision - and was owned by the builder. We liked it but were a little skeptical about getting our hopes up as we had before. We slept on it that night and got up the next morning and took another look.

Our realtor was leaving on Wednesday afternoon for 5 days so if we wanted this house we needed to jump on it and not wait until he came back. We looked at it again on April 1st and put in the offer that afternoon. We got a call later saying the seller wasn't willing to go down that much, but as Mark and our realtor were talking he got a phone call from her. We prayed and waited for a call back. He called back and said that she had accepted our offer. Praise God! Mark's note: We did some fancy negotiations to get our asking price, which suited me just fine. I'm really only happy when I feel like I got a deal. I can't really expect her to do too much to the property before we move in because from start to finish, she ended up dropping the price $32,000.

April 3rd was the inspection on our current home. We were pretty nervous as we've heard these inspections can be deal breakers sometimes. We got word on the following Monday morning that the buyer of our house wasn't concerned with the little things listed on the inspection and wasn't going to have us fix anything! Praise God! We didn't have to fix anything!!! Mark's note: Actually, I've been fixing things for the past 4 years that we've owned our home. We've redone most of the kitchen, the whole bath, a new roof, new light fixtures, rewiring, a basement remodel, exterior window work, and we painted the entire home. We gave her a sweet deal on a nice home. We will miss this home as we've spent most of our married life here, and it's the only home Madalyn knows. There's lots of memories, but better things are to come.

Now we're just waiting. We have our inspection on our new home today, April 10th, and we close on both houses on May 8th! I've started packing boxes here and there and we're getting super excited to move into something bigger before the babies arrive.

Our new house is 2 years old with 4 bedrooms, 3 bath, with a full unfinished basement. The builder, whom we purchased it from, put in an I beam in the basement so there are no beams coming down randomly for support. This was unique to the other homes we've looked at. We are going to finish it off and put a 5th bedroom and a 4th bath down there. I'm excited to have a master bath with a jacuzzi, which we don't have now and HUGE walk in closets! It has a place for Mark's office which we will wall off with french doors and it has a nice big kitchen! The backyard backs up to a commons area, so it will give the kids a place to play as they get older. We have definitely been blessed.

This was probably one of the hardest times that we have gone through with all of the stress and worry but God definitely provided. It's funny that we humans think something is so perfect for us (like we thought the first house was) but God has another plan! You'd think we'd learn that lesson after a while! He gave us an even better home that we will use to Glorify Him! I'm so thankful for the lessons learned through this process, most importantly the lessons of faith and prayer! God definitely knows what's best for us - we just need to trust Him!

Here's a picture of our new home... Except that it does have grass now :)


Friday, April 10, 2009

A Complete Lifesaver

Lately, I have been perusing a few websites for moms of twins. I have come across numerous posts about maternity belts and how helpful they are. I have been having quite a bit of back pain lately and so I considered purchasing one to see how well it worked. A few days ago, I got on Ebay and checked them out. I found a great deal on one for $12 and no shipping. It's called the Ultimate Maternity Belt by Motherhood Maternity. It came in the mail yesterday and I could immediately tell a difference when I put it on. I wore it all day and my back never gave me any issues at all. It seriously is my new lifesaver!!! It's simply a piece of elastic that you can fit around your back and under the tummy. It basically supports the big ole belly that I have and it definitely does it's job. I even wore it to the gym yesterday and didn't feel like the babies were going to fall out when I was exercising! It's well worth my $12 that's for sure!!

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

The Funniest Question I've been asked so far...

I have heard and read from others, that have had multiples before me, that people feel at liberty to say whatever they'd like to say when they find out you are having more than one baby. I've experienced this a few times during this pregnancy - mostly early on. At first it would really upset me and sometimes discourage me, but I've since learned to just let the comments go and even more importantly, just laugh at them. Here are some things that I've heard so far in this twin pregnancy...

"I can't believe you're going to have 2 more kids. That makes 3... One of them is always going to feel left out." - this came from someone I knew!
"I can't believe you're going from one to three kids. That's going to be really hard!"
"Are you ready for this?"
"Wow, you're really big. You were big with Mady so I can't imagine how big you're going to get with this pregnancy." - This coming from my neighbor around the corner who maybe saw me once during my pregnancy with Mady. Plus, she made this comment to me when I was only about 15 weeks pregnant. I wasn't even showing then!
"You are going to be so busy. Are you sure you're up for it?"

These comments crack me up. I mean, seriously, what am I supposed to say?

I've also been compared to the "Octo-mom" (as I like to call her) more than once and that gets old as well! Just because I went through fertility doesn't mean that (A) I'm having 8 kids and (B) I have issues. But like I've said, I've learned to just laugh it off.

All this being said I have to admit that my funniest comment came last night. It wasn't meant to be mean and I know that the person asking honestly had no clue was just being inquisitive. This person is a male and is a good friend of ours. He just has no clue. Here's how the conversation went...

Him: "So, Jenn, you're still working out aren't you?"
Me: "Yep, I'm just not doing as much as I used to do."
Him: "So, how does that work with crunches and such. Are you still able to do those without hurting the babies?"
Me: I about fell off my chair because I was laughing so hard. "Oh no, I can't do crunches anymore nor are they recommended." I went on to tell him how I just have to be careful when I exercise but this is what I was thinking in my head... Are you serious? I can barely get myself out of bed in the morning let alone get my body off the floor to do a crunch! Plus, I have no idea if I even have any abs anymore that I could exercise!

It was quite funny and I know he just had no idea (never having really been around a lot of pregnant womenX. That's why I wasn't upset or offended at all! It was just too funny not to record!

Monday, April 6, 2009

Meadowbrook Easter Carnival

Saturday was an exciting day in the Bettinger household. We woke up to beautiful, sunny weather! It was a perfect day for the annual Easter Carnival at our church. The carnival is a great outreach opportunity for our community and fun for kids of all ages (and parents too). Throughout the day, Madalyn played games and won prizes, she enjoyed a free hot dog lunch, she watched a program full of dancing and singing, and we ended the day with the much anticipated Easter Egg Hunt. We had been telling her about the egg hunt for a few days and she was so excited to be able to take her Easter basket and pick up eggs that we had earlier stuffed with candy. It was a fun family day and we all enjoyed ourselves immensely - all except for the sunburns that we all came home with! I never thought of bringing sunblock in April. We definitely made some great memories together as a family of three...

I'll let the pictures tell some more of the story....
Walking around and checking things out...


The very first game that Madalyn played was the prize walk. We walked around once and didn't win. She wanted to do it again so we played one more time. When the music stopped, all the numbers around us were taken so we went to the nearest open number... number 20. And her number was called! She won a fun sand bucket filled with cute prizes including her favorite - bubbles!
Playing Games...

Golfing with Daddy! They had a great swing.
Carrying an egg on a spoon! She actually beat Daddy in this game!
Showin' some love to the big puppy! She talked about this puppy all day long!
She eyed the inflatables immediately when we got to the carnival, but I wasn't about to take her down that big slide being pregnant! I made Daddy do it. She was so excited! It took them a little bit to get up the "steps." You can't really tell here but Daddy slipped a couple of times. Apparently it was hard to carry Mads and climb those tiny steps. They did great though.
Check out those smiles! I love it! (if you click on the picture, it will enlarge so you can see better).
Mady "hunts" Easter eggs! She made her Daddy proud!
My precious baby girl. I love this little one so much! She was so excited to have 2 Easter baskets full of eggs! Go Mady!

A Steal of a Deal...

Friday I started the day out extremely bad by breaking my eye glasses. I was in a hurry to get out of the house by 8:15, with Mady, as the inspector was coming by to do the home inspection for our buyer. I decided to stick my head over the side of the tub and wash my hair and then realized that I still had my glasses on. I took them off, put them beside me on the ground, and washed my hair. Something told me at that point that I probably shouldn't do that but I thought that I would remember they were lying there.... nope! I ended up stepping on them when I stood up. The ear pieces were badly bent and instead of taking them to the store to have them fixed, I tried to fix them myself. I tried to bend them back and SNAP! the earpiece broke off. My heart sank.

Because I had already purchased my pair of prescription sunglasses this year on our insurance, we weren't able to get another pair of glasses at such a good deal until next January. Mark and I were throwing around ideas of what to do.

Saturday morning we went out to a couple of stores, including Lenscrafters where I got them originally, and no one could do anything for me. They couldn't be soldered because the frames were plastic and no one seemed to have frames small enough to fit my current lenses. So, it was looking like we were going to have to spend $200 to get a new pair of lenses AND frames (and that was average)! Not a fun way to spend money!

We decided to check out Wal-Mart Vision Center on a whim and they had 2 pairs of kids frames that would fit my lenses, a brown pair and a pink pair. I decided on the brown pair and had her write down the name of the frames thinking that they too would be a pretty penny, and I still wanted to shop around a bit. I asked the lady how much they were... and she responded, "Ten Dollars!" What?!?!?!? I'll take them for $10.00! So, she fit my current lenses into my $10 frames and I was out the door! What a deal! That made me happy!!!